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It’s no secret that I have #Lupus and #C-PTSD. I’m fairly vocal about the impact that both of those have on my life. But what I don’t talk about a lot (at least publicly) is that I also have a diagnosed Nonverbal Learning Disability (#NVLD or NLD).

There’s something relatively…


I’m awake. But leaving my bed seems an arduous task that I am not mentally prepared to undertake. Confronting the day when my body is beckoning me to remain under the covers, stashed away in the warmth of a blanket cave, is a difficult task to manifest. I’m on my…


It’s lupus awareness month, and I’m working on embracing a disease that has assaulted my body, my mind, and my social connections in countless, seemingly unforgivable ways.

Lupus is a horribly uncomfortable disease physically. And an equally stressful one socially and emotionally.

I spent the weekend with friends dosing myself…


Dear Friend,

I hear your partner calls you names. I hear they ignore you for unfathomable stretches of time, silently glaring at you as you prepare dinner, mocking you through unanswered read receipts. I hear they hit you…but it’s only been three times, and only when they’re drinking.

I hear…


You’ve heard it before: racist rhetoric exists all around us. It’s pervasive, ugly, and hurtful. It infiltrates daily conversations in ways that most of us wouldn’t realize. And so most of us ignore accidental slights and unintentional misspeaks, brushing them off like tiny flakes of dandruff. …


Yesterday, I saw a man urinating on the street
at 10:30 in the morning
He wasn’t drunk
He wasn’t unemployed
He wasn’t disheveled
And I wondered why he didn’t go into a nearby coffee shop

But it occurred to me that he probably didn’t have the change to buy a…


Five years ago today, Facebook’s “On this Day” informed me, I became Facebook friends with a woman who sent me a care package when I fled Philadelphia, complete with a mini Voodoo kit, and a hand painted portrait of my Beta fish, Patrick Betaman.

Five years ago today, I became…


This morning I did something that I’ve tried very hard not to do — get involved in political arguments on Facebook with strangers. But sometimes someone posts something so egregiously ignorant that, ironically, my rationality is so offended that it decides to pack its bags, and lets emotions take over…


It’s no secret that I absolutely abhor dating apps. I hate them the way I hated peas as youngster — but unlike the peas that I launched out from my lips as soon as my mother got a spoonful in, I can’t just eradicate Tinder and its ilk from my…


Preface: On [date redacted], in the midst of obtaining a protection order against Juicebox* I received the below email from his then-current girlfriend. I never responded to the email, instead passing it on to my attorney, who added it to our hundred page affidavit against one of the most pernicious…

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writing to process thoughts; not processing as often as i should

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